Love is an important key in making marriage and other relationships work. If we are honest with ourselves we'll find that we don’t have the ability to really Love without the power of the Holy Spirit working through us. Our capacity to Love is based on God giving us the ability, supernaturally, when we surrender to Him. Those who don't know God can't Love God's way.
God's Love is Agape Love. Agape Love is stable, predictable and does not change. It's the only Love that can provide a lasting Foundation for marriage. Generally when people say they Love its from a sexual or selfish desire. Those feelings do not last. They change with time, circumstance and situations. That is why there are so many more "baby momma's"and "baby daddy's" than husbands and wives. And so many more divorces than lasting marriages. Agape Love is the committed, sacrificial Love Jesus modeled for us. When Jesus tells us He loves us, He isn’t talking about a feeling that comes and goes. He is telling us He is committed to us forever whether His feelings for us are positive or negative.
When you say “I love you.” Are you saying that you are experiencing a fleeting feeling, or are you saying you are committed forever and will demonstrate love regardless of bad feelings or negative circumstances? It isn’t wrong to express a feeling, just be sure when that feeling isn’t there anymore, you can still say, “I love you,” and do the right thing regardless of the situation. The most dependable people in relationships are those who surrender to the Holy Spirit. They are empowered by a supernatural Love that will do the right regardless! God’s agape Love is the highest form of Love and it will transform any person, relationship, or marriage under its influence.
